1. I believe even when I go back to my past to meet you, young mira, the circumstances will never change. You'll fall in love with the wrong person, & then have a relationship in which will break your heart. I just hope you'll find it easier to forgive yourself and find faster ways to not feel pain for so long.
2. You'll understand that after the break up, not everyone is meant to stay, so do make an effort to be kinder to those who are still in your life before both of your journey together ends.
3. If you don't know what to pray for, tell Allah about your dream man. Maybe not list all 10 characteristic in each solat, that can be tiring for yourself, but tell HIM at least one characteristic that you are looking for. Be consistent yeayyyy
4. I have to tell you that after this relationship with A you won't be able to love another person wholeheartedly, because you understood how to love yourself the most.
5. Coming out from this relationship also, you'll not only feel pain, you'll not only struggle with forgiving sincerely & moving on, but you'll know what kind of man you need to spend a lifetime with. Every single relationship will teach you that lesson.
6. The fastest way to forgive him is to understand that your ex-partner is a human being, hence he is flawed and so are you.
7. The fastest way to move on is by praying a lot of blessings for him... and then ask Allah to give you the same thing but multiple it by 10.
8. You cannot believe it but after a break up, you'll dealt with a lot of self-hate. You hate yourself for feeling sad, pain, and anger. You'll feel disgusted with yourself because it seems you are still clinging on to the past and false hope. Please, be gentle to yourself. Learn to love yourself until you won't feel the hatred anymore.
9. This self-hate and moving on battle are often lonely, you'll reach a point where you can't tell anyone about your pain anymore because people will only judge you for not healed yet. And they, unlike yourself unfortunately, couldn't see the effort you are putting in to heal.
10. Your fears are valid, your tears are valid, your side of the story are valid, don't listen to him that you are wrong.
11. Love is not the only thing that can save a relationship or make it work. Understand that if there are no respect, no compromise, if you both cannot accept one another flaws and above all, most importantly, tak sekufu.. sorry my dear, the chances for break up is high.
12. It's sad for me to tell you this, the only way you can appreciate God, your family members, your friends and yourself is when you have went through a break up.
13. Let your source of happiness be your own self, so that if another relationship fail, it'll be easier for you to get back up.
14. Another bad side effect of this relationship that I didn't tell you was... after this you'll realize everything is fleeting, none of it is permanent. Sure, you'll give the best treatment to the next partner as if in another moment he will be gone but the con is: in the back of your mind you know that separation is inevitable and sometimes you look forward to it. Not because you desire to be single. But you know it'll happen, and your poor soul just wants to get ready for it.
I am so so sorry that it'll be like that mira. I hope we can be okay soon.
